Time for another Graham update. Yesterday I weighed myself while holding Graham and then without him so I could get an estimate of his weight at 3 months. We figure he is about 14 pounds! Wow… and I carry that around all day! I think my arms are the only muscles in my body that are getting stronger since I have no time to work out. I actually do have time, but lack motivation at this point. I feel like I have a million things to do all the time, but really nothing so important that I can’t spare 15 minutes a day to do some form of exercise. I think exercising would really help with my stress level so I need to make it a priority. What stress you may ask? Where do I even begin. Actually I bring most of it on myself, but not all of it. Just everyday things like laundry (which has at least tripled since Graham showed up), making dinner, going to the store, cleaning up the house, updating the blog, taking and editing pictures (since I am a perfectionist this takes a lot of time), keeping up with the budget, Graham’s baby and pregnancy books, clipping coupons and finding the best deals in town, feeding and medicating all the animals, watering the plants and yard, pulling weeds and other yard works, volunteer at the SPCA…. I could go on and on. Oh and take care of Graham!!

So in my previous post I stated that we finally found a sleep solution. Note to self – never blog about how your kid is sleeping because he will take that opportunity to prove you wrong. The night after I posted about him sleeping so great he was up at 1am, 3am, 5am and then up for the day by 7:30. Ugh. The next night was more of the same. I am not sure what triggered this since many things could be contributing. Maybe a growth spurt, maybe because we stopped the swing from moving at night, maybe because he was getting more sleep during the day or maybe because he is a baby and he likes to change things up weekly! I post a lot about sleep and it is my obsession. I have been reading all the books I can get my hands on about getting your baby to sleep. Now, I don’t do this because I want to sleep, although it would be nice. I do this because I know Graham is tired, then overtired and then down right mean and grumpy. I want to help him learn to sleep and sooth himself so he can sleep anywhere, not just the swing. He would feel so much better if he would just sleep! I get really annoyed with my books, all of which state “newborns (0-3 months) sleep when they are tired and sleep most of the time”. Really? I beg to differ. Not all do this!

I am not a cry it out person. I can’t do that to him, punish him for not sleeping? It isn’t his fault he doesn’t know how to fall asleep in the crib. That is our fault! Even though I won’t let him cry it out for hours it doesn’t mean I give in to his every whimper because I do believe he has learned that he can get his way by crying. Sure, that is a good thing when he is hungry or needs a new diaper, but not so good when he needs to sleep and refuses. It took us about a week to get him sleeping in the swing without it moving. We do sometimes turn it on when he is very overtired and extra cranky. I try my best to avoid it, but that isn’t always possible. This weekend we have put him in the crib for naps. He fights it, but both times he eventually fell asleep for about 30 minutes. And no he did not cry it out. He did cry and we talked softly to him, rubbed is head and gave him the pacifier. Once we had to resort to the vacuum, but we didn’t pick him up. It is a start. It will take time for him to get used to this new sleeping environment. Many of my books suggest schedules, but the thought of that really stresses me out. I try to keep somewhat of a flexible schedule, but it is difficult when we are going to see mom, taking JD to the vet and when I have to be away (volunteer, shop, etc). I try to watch him and catch him before he gets overtired, but doing that isn’t really a schedule. I think this week I will write down when he eats and sleeps and see if I can find some sort of pattern.

So I will take a break from posting on sleep and next time I will discuss cloth diapers!

This week hasn’t brought too many new changes in Graham. He loves to talk to himself and has recently started chewing/sucking on his tongue. I guess this is better than his hands which he doesn’t do very much. He will sometimes suck on his fist or fingers, but not nearly as much as the tongue or pacifier. His favorite toy right now is his yellow bouncy seat. He smiles and talks to the birds a lot. He is getting much better at riding in the car and will sometimes fall asleep in his car seat, but wakes up as soon as you move him. He is slowly trying to grab objects and put them in is mouth, but he hasn’t exactly perfected it yet.

My brother and his friend came up this weekend and we got to hang out with them some. Graham was nice enough to puke all over his Uncle Zach. I have to say the spitting up/puke is the most annoying thing to me, mostly because I have to change my clothes so often or smell like spoiled milk all day. He is starting to drool a lot too, but that doesn’t bother me because it doesn’t smell or stain my clothes.

Uncle Zach and Graham
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Graham helping with the yard work Saturday
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Watching TV with Daddy

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Graham 13 weeks
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